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05/01/2025 8:55 pm
There is a lot of egos in this scene, and you learn to listen, be non judgemental and only say nice things
I have been in the scene some 20 years, so just getting the hang of it
My short fall is someone who swops 'sides', by this i mean a spankee who becomes a spanker, or visa versa
While they identify in their new role I can never shake seeing that person in the original role I first knew them in
I am always respectful to their new role, but underneath just cant le go of how I first knew them
Whats your shortfall within the scene?
08/01/2025 9:46 pm
Hmmm - not sure what you mean by 'shortfall' but I'll explain why I have switched a little bit to the other side now!!
I too joined the scene about 20 years ago or more and I am naturally a 'brat' and 'spankee'. But since Covid, my pain threshold is non existant and my health has gone downhill!!! This alongside the fact trying to find someone to spank me in the 'traditional, old fashioned way' makes things rather difficult!
So - I decided - in order to get play - I would try switching a bit! HOWEVER, I can never EVER switch with someone who spanks or Tops me - it just wouldn't feel right to me. I know many people switch with each other - but I just can't get into that headspace.
Anyway - that's my reason for trying to switch!!!
SpankerTim4f reacted
09/01/2025 8:55 am
My main shortfall is overthinking before it gets there, especially since I don't want to be one of *those* creepy guys. So there's anxiety in whether I should even say hello, and more anxiety in extending a conversation. And then there's a whole nother level of anxiety still in asking someone if they want to play.
Short version - social skills! 😀
09/01/2025 11:20 am
Getting to know people face to face and make new friends and get more involved. Resolved to make 2025 The year I change this by going to more events and meeting new people and making new friends and having fun
Mal or M (You decide)
